•Art of Accomplishment is very practical. They give you the tools that you can implement in your daily life. It’s not like talk therapy where you talk about things and try to figure them out, it’s on the other end of that spectrum. It’s very live and experiential.
•During a connection course you’re looking at someone and running exercises and seeing how it changes things in your body. It’s very embodied, experiential.
•At first, it felt very subtle and I couldn’t see the impact. And then a month later, I’m like, oh, it created a new option when I’m in a certain scenario. Role playing and trying the experiment creates the sense that I can do something different. It really snowballs in that way, and you can feel the transformation over time.
What Resonated
•For so long, I had an intellectual understanding of my feelings. Even in therapy, I’m kind of just sitting there and not really moving. I’m aware of what’s happening, but there isn’t an expression. There’ve been times where I’ve been like, I feel like I need to shake or do stuff and it felt like the wrong container to do that in.
•There’s something about having a facilitator there and you’re just talking, yelling and them, and bringing your full body. For me, there’s a blockage in the throat and speaking is a really big thing. And so being able to speak it out and say things that don’t make sense and feel unenlightened, but are just the part saying what it needs, is so helpful. Afterwards, they do this thing where you open your body and look around and see the other people in the room seeing you and how much love they have for your anger, and see that you’re safe in your body.
•It kind of rewired something where I was like, anger doesn’t have to be terrifying or feel like I’m in danger or in trouble and everything is going to be chaotic and broken. There’s this sacredness to it and there can be so much joy in that as well.
•It's very easy to point people to their podcast and share it with friends. It's applicable and easy to spread.
•Their approach helps you go from just accepting experience to wanting to really embrace and love experience. It's a lot of working with anger and really embracing emotions. I think that's what that's led me to this understanding of emotional fluidity – the sense that emotions can be felt and processed and can flow through the body. That concept I got from out of Art of Accomplishment in a way that I wouldn't have really without it.
•AoA is pointing towards presence and attunement with someone. It changed how I am in conversation with someone. I didn’t realize how important asking open ended questions was in holding space, and also being impartial and non-agenda’d. The way they teach it and reinforce it with the exercises and experiments has been really helpful. I’m more able to notice it in myself, in my body – like a somatic experience when I’m being partial or if I experience someone else as being partial. It happens a lot less than it used to, although it probably does still happen sometimes.
•It’s a general toolkit for anyone who wants to show up more fully for people and themselves.